The Bible tells us about the first marriage between two human beings in Genesis. Adam, the first human God created, needed a companion. So, in his infinite wisdom, God created Eve from one of Adam’s ribs. In Genesis 2:22, Adam looks upon Eve and says ,“This is at last bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh.”
In a literal sense, when God made Eve, he created two from one. Adam was alone, but then God fashioned his rib into Eve. Then, symbolically, God made two into one again when Adam and Eve took each other’s hands in marriage. In the same way that Adam and Eve were two halves a whole, so, too, are all happily married couples.
A healthy marriage is a partnership between equals. Love truly can conquer all, God tells us, and the love of a married couple is the same love that has moved mountains and defeated darkness. However, not every marriage is going to be perfect. There are daily struggles and stresses from modern life that can be hard to deal with.
Spouses grow distant, and they can become cold with each other. However, this isn’t what the Bible tells us is best for a healthy marriage. In Ephesians 5:25, God explains that a man’s wife should be so beloved that he is willing to put her interests before his own. Your love for your spouse should compel you to work to put them first.
We owe each other patience, communication, and love. God wants His children to be happy, and the key to a happy marriage is to communicate. If there are things your spouse does that you can’t stand, talk to them about it. Don’t stew about it behind their back; come to them with your concerns and tell them how you’re feeling.
If you’re finding it difficult to talk to your spouse alone, you could reach out to your church for counseling. If your relationship is based on faith, the odds are good that your spouse will respect and appreciate God’s guidance with your struggles.
Remember to practice compassion and patience with everyone, but especially with your spouse. Proverbs 12:18 tells us, “Thoughtless speech is like the stabs of a sword, but the tongue of the wise is a healing.” Pray for guidance and composure before you speak about particularly tough issues with your spouse, and let God’s word guide you. Remember: anything worth having is worth working for, and a healthy relationship is no different.