“…For this reason, a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh?” – Matthew 19:5
From the creation of the world as recorded in the first two chapters of the book of Genesis, the idea of marriage has been a union between a man and a woman. Marriage has always involved two people of opposite, yet complementary genders sharing life together as a testament of God’s goodness. However, this view of marriage has been under attack for quite some time, and things don’t seem to be settling down. Does God’s view change with the social climate or did He really mean what He said in Scripture?
In today’s verse, Jesus was talking about the subject of marriage and divorce. To better understand Jesus’ teaching, let’s take a look at this verse in the context of those that surround it. This passage is considered among the most important Bible verses on marriage within Scripture.
Jesus was being questioned by the Pharisees about the lawfulness and accepted grounds for divorce.
“Haven’t you read,” he replied, “that at the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female,’ and said, ‘For this reason, a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’? So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.” – Matthew 19:4-6
The Pharisees then challenged Jesus over the fact that Moses allowed divorce.
“Jesus replied, “Moses permitted you to divorce your wives because your hearts were hard. But it was not this way from the beginning. I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another woman commits adultery.” – Matthew 19:8-9
There are critical teachings that we can take away from Matthew 19:3-9. Jesus specified that:
A so-called “throuple,” a trio of persons involved in a three-way relationship, has garnered national attention after appearing on the web television talk show Red Table Talk, hosted by Jada Pinkett Smith, Willow Smith, and Adrienne Banfield-Norris.
The trio is made up of a decade-long polyamorous couple Cathy, 39, and Thomas Keen, who share a 7-year-old son, along with their girlfriend 27-year-old Nicole Everett.
The two women, Cathy and Nicole, had been friends before the latter was brought into the relationship. The pair worked together at Feeld, a dating app for “open-minded couples and singles.”
When discussing the arrangement, Cathy said, “We have a different set of beliefs that are governing the way that we behave” and that the threesome just has “very different ideas about sex.”
She says they view sex as a “spiritual thing that you can use to connect with other people, not something that has to be just between two people.”
“And for us, having sex is just a normal part of human existence, you know. It’s not like this dirty, filthy thing to us,” Cathy added, saying that the three of them “have just this undeniable chemistry.”
“I’m sorry that we do offend some people with it,” Cathy said, telling the host that she came “from a strict Christian background.” After appearing on the show, Cathy said there was a strong backlash.
“This is the first time we’ve come up against that because I feel like the U.S. audience is more conservative, more kind of Christian, although I saw a few Muslim women have written a couple of things too,” Cathy said.
“I do understand why that is kind of like quite a difficult subject for certain people. The one thing I would say about that is that sex especially seems to get really demonized by those types of people who will respond to it,” she said.
“For this reason, God gave them up to dishonorable passions. For their women exchanged natural relations for those that are contrary to nature; and the men likewise gave up natural relations with women and were consumed with passion for one another, men committing shameless acts with men and receiving in themselves the due penalty for their error.” – Romans 1:26-27